5 Tips for Cutting Financial Tension at Home

Financial tension can create dramatic rifts within families. It’s unfortunate, but most people have a situation or secondhand story to refer to when talking about how finances got in the way of otherwise loving relationships. To alleviate or eliminate this tension, we can be proactive about our financial plans and communicate openly with our families. Here are five tips to help you create financial harmony at home. 

1. Take a Step Back

Before you can take action, it’s essential to take a step back and look at your finances objectively—as objectively as possible, that is. Try removing the emotion from the situation and see where you stand. How much debt do you have? How much are your assets worth? Once you have a clear picture of your financial standing, you can begin to identify potential problem areas that may cause tension.

This step is important to do on your own and then with your partner, or maybe your children or other family members—whomever is directly involved with your finances, or may be down the line. Having everything out in the open is an excellent place to start when you’re opening communication channels to begin healing financial worry and stress.

2. Ask Yourself the Difficult Questions

This step is uncomfortable, but it’s crucial to understand where the issues are coming from. Do you or your partner have a habit of overspending? Is debt weighing you down? Are you preparing for retirement? Dig deep and form a better understanding of where your financial stress begins. It’s only when you know how you got there that you will be able to make a plan to move toward a better future.

3. Create a Solid, Sensible Financial Plan

As you take a step toward removing the financial stress and tension in your home, you must create a realistic financial plan. You may find it most motivating to set personal goals with your money. Be sure to include your family in these goals! Maybe it’s paying off debtsaving for college tuition or a family vacation, or buying a house or car. However you motivate yourself, this goal will give you solid numbers and give you something to work toward.

Once you know what you’re working for, even if it’s simply less financial stress, begin building your plan. Focus on paying off debt, building your savings, investing in your retirement, and placing your money on a path to work for you, not against you. Every dollar that comes into your house has a purpose; it’s up to you to find what that purpose is and to work together with your family to be on the same page about your collective financial goals and vision.  

4. Communicate with Your Family

Many money arguments stem from poor communication within families. Don’t make money a taboo topic in your house, and let your family members know that it’s okay to discuss financial stressors and goals because together you can make a plan. Especially within couples, speak openly about your money mindset. This doesn’t just include your habits, but also how your family handled money when you were young, how you think about it now, and what you’re working toward.

5. Create an Air-Tight Estate Plan

It’s uncomfortable to discuss estate plans at times because it implies that there will be a time when you aren’t around; however, think of it this way: you’re saving your loved ones stress and worry in the future, protecting them from further heartache. Arguments among family members about money after someone close has passed is all too common. With a solid estate plan, you can maintain control over your finances even once you are no longer able. Ensure that your assets are distributed as you would like for them to be and that your family members aren’t worried about finances. 

Reduce financial worry by planning a financial strategy with your financial planner. Are you ready to get started? Contact us today to schedule a consultation.

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Jeffrey T. Dobyns

CFP®, CLU, CHFC

President, SageSpring 

Jeffrey T. Dobyns

President, SageSpring 

Beyond crunching numbers and investment strategies, at SageSpring, we’re about building relationships. When you encounter Founder & President of SageSpring, Jeff Dobyns, it’s easy to understand why this is at the very heart of who we are as a firm. You won’t find stuffy formalities with Jeff; instead, you can expect to find him sharing a warm smile, communicating a compelling vision, or patiently untangling life’s complex challenges with clients. He believes in truly getting to know clients, understanding their aspirations and priorities, and navigating their financial plans with a tailored, comprehensive approach. Our team members have often been caught taking notes on Jeff’s effortless relationship skills from a distance, and we admire them for striving to learn from one of the best. 

Jeff’s financial expertise and wisdom are the perfect match to his innate people skills. Jeff holds the prestigious CERTIFIED FINANCIAL PLANNERTM certification, Chartered Life Underwriter (CLU®), and Chartered Financial Consultant (ChLU®) designations, and has held executive positions with financial planning firms for more than two decades. 

His dedication extends beyond the office to the boardroom and the local community, where Jeff is passionate about giving back. He serves as Chairman of the Board of Men of Valor, a prison ministry and mentoring program. Jeff also serves on the board of Send Musicians to Prison, which shares hope, healing and restoration with the imprisoned through musicians & artists. Jeff actively supports other initiatives in the community by sitting on the board of The Signatry of Middle Tennessee and the Halftime Institute of Nashville. 

Witnessing his four children, Gracyn, Hunter, Tanner, and Logan, excel on the field is almost just as rewarding, if not more, than celebrating the victories of seeing his clients overcome obstacles and build wealth. Spending weekends boating on the lake, hiking mountain trails, and fishing with his family are the moments Jeff cherishes most. It’s this grounded perspective that reveals the true meaning of wealth for Jeff: not just numbers on a page, but the freedom to create experiences that enrich your life and the lives of those you love. When you choose the Dobyns McMillin Wealth Team, you choose more than financial expertise. You choose a partner who champions your dreams, celebrates your victories, and walks besides you on the path to achieving your unique goals.

**Certified Financial Planner Board of Standards Inc. owns the certification marks CFP®, CERTIFIED FINANCIAL PLANNER TM, CFP® (with plaque design) and CFP® (with flame design) in the U.S., which it awards to individuals who successfully complete CFP Board’s initial and ongoing certification requirements.